LEARN FROM MY YOUTH EXPERIENCE

Owing to my prescence in this world i came to learn that my mother is ligally married from Namirembe Cathedral (Anglican)and sooner as she got married she joined Mothers Union where all married mothers unit by the help of anglican church (Namirembe Dioces) to curry out usefull activities that is suitable for the whole nation as mothers.

In this case I grew up seeing my mother the head of mothers Union Maganjo church of Uganda (Anglican) where all mothers could gother every wedesday and do some activities together.

They used to work hand in hand to see us prosper, grow up in godly manner and also come out proffessional children.

They used to do handcrafts, cookery , tailoring, counselling and gudence to the youth and this is why Iam properous woman.

I remember when  I was getting married my mother  told my husband that you have not only taken a wife but a prosperous woman.

Through all mothers Union efforts  I grew up with a courage that I will also give my community a second chance and learn from me.

Iam Educated , married, working and also a clergy leader with this I would love you also to share witth me and plan from below.

Justine happy at her parent's compound at Kagoma

AGED 18

 MY YOUTH

Getting out of it.

My youth was a wonderful time of life and In think yours should also be the same.

Youth life is something like climatic season of the year. It’s the time of fresh vitality where our body gets stronger and minds develop.

Many opportunities open up to learn and also do important things to your life for, there are many reasons why you should be happy and excited.

          IAM EDUCATED

Justine's first year at Nkumba Uiversity  Entebbe Uganda (East -Africa)

Offered A Higher Diploma IN Business Education (Marketing) at THE AGE OF 19YRS.

Here develops a question,

Qn.Will it be for you?

Through my experience many things can happen or hinder for example, some of them are the things you can’t do anything about.

My aim is to help you and get the best out of your youth with long lasting benefit.

First of all  youth life is a time of challenges , realizing the road of life today  has a plenty of rough spots despite that you have to learn early how to overcome those rough spots than the rest of the road becomes far smoother for you

I remember in youth life or teenage there is

1. Transition time.

2. A period of change.  

Where body moves towards physical maturity until ages twenty and twenty three.

Some changes can make you confused, unsure of yourself but the only question that should come your way should be,

•  what next?
• How do I handle this?

Iam trying to teach you how you should handle your youth through experience to what  I did to go through it successfully.

You have to learn how to enjoy meeting those challenges.

AIDS TO CHANGE YOUR YOUTH COURSE.

Sometimes it may seem your life is restricted full of Do’s and Don’ts. But pleas bear with them because its well known that old broom sweeps well because of knowing all corners.

I passed through all these and eventually succeeded.

When someone is still young she /he has more freedom they won’t have later.

Instead of being loaded down with responsibilities that we old people have, you are free to spend a lot of time getting knowledge and developing your abilities and skills.

In your youth life one has much time to think about with  what other people have done or are doing . You can learn from their success and failures. This however helps you to know what direction you want to take on the rood life.

Qn. 

1. Can you decide the direction to take on your own without ant help?
2. How much sense would it make to try?

So during my youth I strictly kept my communication lines open. So please do the same to avoid regrets.

It’s a simple fact of life that every one learns from each other, but these can’t be successful without proper communication.

e.g.  Talking, reading observing, and no realizing what others do.

With me these helped me a great deal .

• Taking care of my body.
• Get and keep really good friendship.
• Acquiring helpful guidelines as to dirty card courting and answers to question about marriage.

Many youth of today feel they don’t want learn from older people the question is why do they and a reader of this message .How do you feel about it?

Besides listening to older people, why do we also need some other source of information about youth life?

There is a lot of selfishness among youth for they reserve their independence a lot.

Many youth are being treated unfairly but still remember this is just a season and just take it for granted that no one can eat his cake and then have it.

During the youth time there is possibility of cheating, pollution, crime, war, lying and hypocrisy.

I used to ask myself what I could learn from older people when they have made such a mess.

With me I looked to my future with confidence and find out why you also have to do the same.

Qn.Have you ever made a high jump?

With high jump if you are afraid of jumping you cant make it and if you are confident you can. Confidence helps to overcome the problem of your youth and without it one cant.

In this case you must be sure about change in a living society so you have to experience whether you like it or not.

Immediately after youth life you have to change to another life of growing to manhood.

GROWING TO MANHOOD

As you are approaching manhood its natural for you to feel a desire for self identity.

In the way that you take yourself as distant person.

MOVING TO A WOMANHOOD

 Springtime eventually comes to summer and hot climate to wet climate.

 Flowers become fruit bearing trees so do young girls become young women,

 Your clothes and appearance changes automatically.

After all my studies I got married to Pastor George  Mulindwa, we are legally married and live happilly  married.

CARING FOR YOUR SELF PHYSICALLY.

I remember my mother Eneri Nanyanzi Musoke related a human body to a house with windows and doors while Apostle Paul called this as dwelling house.

Ecclesian chapter 12:3-7

While in Corinthians chapter5:12 say like a house, your body needs a proper care if you are to get pure benefit from it.

Qn.

1. What type of house keepers are you when it comes to caring?
2. Do you appreciate the body you live?

If you want to get the best out of your youth and the whole life you cannot afford to neglect any part your body. Corinthians 12:12-14,26

WHEN IN YOUTH TIME.

You can easily be identified.

• By dress.
• By Make up or cosmetics.
• Talking.
• Walking hair styles etc

A way you dress tells something about you in other ways it can identify you with a certain group or class.

Base on second kings in bible where Azahia got a message from a man for the king whom he did not know his name.

There and then the king just asked him to describe the man by his garments and when he did it the king automatically knew it was Elijah in this case the king new him by his distinct garments of prophecy.

• A woman with longer hair its glory to her.
• A woman with cosmetics indicates that ancient people used it.

We know that people wear clothes not merely cover the body but also to produce attractive appearance.

Making your own body even more pleasant in addition to this its good for young ones to recognize how harmful is cosmetics.

They can have complexion, poor or worse besides, it really musk the freshness of youth which is really of great beauty than artificial effect cosmetic create.

Over use is bad and results to poor or weak points .it can instead prevent beauty , personality .into cheapen New image   have at present.

I used to follow right guidelines .

 In God’s word there is so many specific rules where the guidelines are provided.

Young people may seek to get a balanced outlook where bible can help to do this.

Your parents are the right people to do this, are the right people to guide you. E.g. If the house was painted with wild colors people will wonder if the head or his wife had any sense.

If the house is neglected and lost appearance they will have little respect to house owners.

Young people you have to respect your  parents more than than house does . Bear their name and just as what you do and say reflects the training they give you. Charity begins at home.

If you claim to be one of his daughter/son you represent your parent.  

• Does Your appearance fit your claim?

KINDS OF FRIENDS

Suggest what kind of friend you want. Having a true friend adds a lot to joy of living people.

Doing something with a friend seems to multiply the enjoyment of particular experience..

When displaced or depressed, a friend can do better, encourages you when going is hard. Proverbs.17:14

True companion is loving all the time. While royalty emphasizes real friendship..

SEEKING A WORTHWHILE FRIEND

Only way of having a worthwhile friend to me was to be one.

I have been all along afraid of being left out.

 what I could on do was to be friendly to others.

I calculated that, that would make others feel that they would really like to have me as their friend. 

For example being open minded, keen listener, well-behaved, educated, holly, skillful, marriage, and a hard worker.

Friendship cannot be bought either by use of material possessions or flattery or giving into what others wants.

Any friend that is being bought is not worthy the price.

Friend is attracted by what you are so choose wisely.

WHY GOOD CHOICE IS VITAL

A proverbs says when in Rome do as Rome does .

Your choice of friend tells a lot about you or what type of person you are likely to become.

Choose a friend who are honest, god loving and fearing, decent, considerate, respective, those with courage, to do what’s right or those who are attracted by people who pride themselves on being able.

Try to finish whatsoever you start.

Much of my happiness came from accomplishment e.g. If you decide to study please stick to it. then the rest will follow you. If at at you quit what you planned to do then you never get pleasure and satisfaction from it..

DATING AND COURTSHIP

Every normal person wants to get  enjoyment out of life But before doing it ask yourself Am I mysterious woman  Or girl! To succeed in this one has to be mysterious.

I have learnt it from my husband pastor George mulindwa from the time of dating, courtship and marriage. He has been indeed open to me that he likes mysterious woman.

Owing to my presence before him actually his first sight , he liked my styles , hair style, smiles, conversations, ideas, later after knowing each other he added appreciation to my behaviors, faith, skills and profession furthermore., Iam keen listener and a hardworking woman finally he chose me to be his best friend.

MYSTERIOUS WOMAN

Are you mysterious?

For sure Men love mysterious women while bare it all style has certain immediate allure. an easy familiarity quickly becomes boring.

As a poster’s wife I have leant it through experience right from the time I got married to him why many married women are abandoned by their beloved though others just act negligently upon loving and marriage.

According to my experience as a married woman men are blessed with perusing the un known.

Nothing holds their interest more than a challenge towards a mysterious woman lucking certain substances even the most sensuous woman runs the risk of becoming too predictable.

HOW DOES ONE BECOME MYSTERIOUS ALIVE?

This can be done when your husband knows everything about you from the way you smile to the cute birth mark on your hip or thigh.

It can only know from your godly character you expose to him and the community or to everybody. In this you must walk in Godly character.

According to me there are seven ways guaranteed to bring out mystery in their mates. And are as follows.

·        Surprise.

·        Life to Explore.

·        Keep some secrets to yourself.

·        Never preserve your independence to your husband.

·        Keep Up Appearance.

·        And your spirits.

·        Exude Confidence.

·        Speak Languages Of Love.

1. SURPRISE.

Men are always persuaded by the New and Fresh. They always try to sport mystery in their mates.

My husband surprised me when he asked me , Justine who taught you to prepare a luwombo.

What did you do to your hair! What made your skin attractive! But you have never wear red! You must be having your initial attempts to surprise him.

These attempts to surprise him are met with intense resistance, but be persistent.

2.LIFE TO EXPLORE 

 Go a head and paint your nails, make him think he doesn’t know what you gonna do next. These may include letting him see you without a make up if you always wear it.

·                    Suggest a Snorkeling expedition If you are more than a lie on beach sort.

·                    Introduce simple novels to energize him.

·                    A trail of candles lighting a path to bed.

·                    Love notes on his briefcase.

·                    A rose on his steering wheel in the morning.

KEEP SOME SECRETS TO YOURSELF

Never reveal all to your lover as they can destroy your marriage.

Be conservative in revealing hurting information. “Less is more” This doesnot mean to hide away trustworthiness with your husband, His struggle to know the real you will bring him closer.

I always have a tendency of insisting that a key to maintaining mystery involves hunting regularly at the richest of her privacy life, fantasies and desires, past experience but not revealing too much retail.

Sprinklings of clues always leave a man without things to question about you.

3.PRESERVE YOUR INDEPENDENCE

Independence, friendship and interests plus strong sense of humor are essential components of mystery. That’s having life of your own is important. Too often women abandon their own lives and leap into patterns when infact a woman with a separate life is far more attractive to man.

I remember My husband Pastor George made me quit my job and move with him all along, We spent more time together and see if we could get married, We learnt from each, got to know each other better and eventually got married We believed in each other and I tossed away my own life and build one with him but still being together all along can be boring while a man who rerefreshes his best of time it doesn’t need you wait for his call add his life and call him ask him the way he is , please take him to new height.

4.KEEP UP APPEARANCE

Once a woman are in relationship, they often think now I can be myself this is wrong are you really yourself when you yell!! Yo!

Pass the cream or cheese especially when you have a mouthful of lox or when you have a lounge around on Sunday in an ancient T. shirt and chewed up burning sundles sometimes women forget being husbands lovers’ best friends. Acting right doesn’t require him but just simple consideration .As an act of Courtesy don’t include him in your daily cosmetic rituals.

5.AND YOUR SPIRITS.

There is more powerful attractant than a warm generous contagious smile. Smile is about being positive.

Every one wants to know why you re happy. You also tend to attract physiologically health men because they are more drowned with herself and while you are smiling validate it with sense of humor.

A woman who doesn’t smile conveys a sense of self absorption and lucky self esteem.

6.EXDUCE CONFIDENCE